The creator of the attachment theory – British physician and psychoanalyst John Bowlby states how important it is for the development and life of a child to build emotional bonds in the family. It has an impact not only on the well-being of our child now but also plays a big role in the psychological and emotional development in his later years.
The family environment plays a special role in the child’s social development. If we do not ensure proper bonding with the baby, in the future it will have a tendency to enter into inappropriate relationships, and his need for attachment will be unmet.
The bond between the mother and the baby is already formed in the mother’s womb. But the actions taken after the baby have already appeared in the world have a huge impact.
What is it about building a relationship? Touch, a sense of security, and meeting the baby’s needs are the conditions necessary for its survival.
Right after birth, it is the sense of touch that is most developed in a baby. “Through the skin” he gets to know the world around him, which is why hugging, stroking or carrying is so important, and nothing can handle our baby like a sling 🙂
Breastfeeding also builds relation. It ensures not only the emotional safety of the child but also its physical safety, it gives the small organism strength to face the world around it. The process causes the release of oxytocin, which is called the love hormone, moreover, skin-to-skin contact has many other benefits. It stabilizes the child’s heart rhythm and breathing, and maintains optimal body temperature and blood sugar levels
Another crucial element is responding to your baby’s crying and needs. Crying or whining is the only possible way to communicate at first. Don’t ignore it.
Talking and singing. Singing not only calms the baby, but also has a huge impact on the development of his speech and imagination, and talking is the best way to support the baby’s development.
Playing with your baby and taking care of your own well-being. Researchers found that playing together gives the child the feeling of being loved as little as any other activity, and additionally eliminates aggression and reduces the tendency to the bad competition.
Motherhood is not one of the easiest tasks, so remember to also take care of yourself and your psychological comfort, because happy parents are happy children.